The Lesbian Social Network
“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be choice, because if it is a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not….Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate?”- Cynthia Nixon
Do I believe being gay is a choice? No. Well, not most of the time, any way. But what about those that identify as a bisexual? Frequently they settle down with either one gender or another.If they choose to enter a same-sex partnership, is it then wrong for them to identify as gay or lesbian? What if they settle in a relationship with someone that is the opposite sex? Should they still claim themselves as bisexual or should the consider themselves straight? What about those who identify as straight but then find love and settle down with someone of the same sex? I am curious to see what everyone's thoughts on this are as I am sure there are a variety of opinions out there that are all founded on a variety of facts and experiences.
The only thing is sounds like to me is that you, yourself are bisexual (who has leanings toward women)--which is not your choice. I must also ask just how much research you yourself have done on the matter--real research. Peer-reviewed, statistically significant results (i.e., not some news article or the Internet), and/or APA meta-analyses. If you're wondering so much, educate yourself. All you'll get here is fallacious, anecdotal evidence and hearsay. I contain a vast knowledge of the aforementioned resources and I can tell you, the short answer is: NO.
Lucie, your reply is ambiguous... to whom is your ... "you yourself" directed? and short answer No, to which question?
ok im going to add this, i did sometime wish it was a choice, because of the way that i was raised i found it extremely hard to come to terms with my sexuality, it took me the guts of 7 years to accept myself as lesbian, my mother still thinks its a choice/phase that i will grow out of, but thats her generations way of thinking
Are you serious?
i guess so lol
This is simple to answer, NO. We create relationships all the time with guys & girls but to be more than a "Friend" would mean you have not just a mental connection with a "Friend" but have physical attraction towards that person. Your natural reaction physically towards guys & girls is all you need to know. Physically, if your attracted to a guy but not physically intimate because it doesn't feel good for any reason consistently, would mean your not physically attracted to guys right? Did you choose to make out with a girl cause you knew the guy you liked thought seeing 2 girls kiss was hot so you did it to get his attention? Whatever feels right naturally as you grow up you know what you are physically attracted to regardless of gender. I never chose to feel like this when I was born, but physically girls always felt right even after trying to be physical with guys it never felt right and stuck with me as I got older. I chose to do what felt right and I knew made me happy cause that was the truth.
Good question. You can not choose who you are attracted to but you can make a choice to act on your desires. I am bisexual, and my attraction to either sex does not end when I am in a relationship. If I am committed and in love my attraction to other people is only an admiration of beauty and in that case I choose to act on love rather than lust but that does not change my orientation. If I am with a man, I will still consider myself bisexual, even if he is all that I want and need in a partner, hey we can admire the beauty in women together:)
for me it is not. even if there was any kind of sexual attraction, I just wouldn’t be happy. I tried dating guys.. most of them were really sweet, good looking and fun to be with. but there was just something missing .. if one of those guys would have been a girl.. I’d probably be “married” by now ;D (just kidding)
that whole label thing.. I don’t know. is this really necessary? if you fall in love you just do.. weather it is a girl or a guy.. why do we have to call ourselves gay, bisexual or straight, in the first place?
because unfortunately we are human in nature, and we must put everything into identities. Just calling yourself a woman is a stereotype based off of physical appearance. This is the way our brains associate, from the time we are born we learn these things and we carry it out through our lifetimes.
What a bunch of gibberish. Do you buy into your own nonsense?
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